When we find ourselves at odds with someone—whether a major conflict, minor disagreement, or simple frustration with something they did or said—our brains often make assumptions about them and their motivations. These assumptions can turn into judgments and inhibit us from engaging with them in a productive way.

I found myself doing this last weekend and was gently called out through the offering of a "nonjudgmental cup of coffee".

In this video, I offer two questions you can ask yourself in these situations to help you reframe your thinking. Honest answers to these questions will enable you to process the scenario with stronger logic and more empathy as you separate facts and stories.